May 13, 2014
My Uncle Sal once gave me some good advice. In the midst of some serious heartbreak of his own, based on a love related event that changed his life forever, he relayed these words: "Even if the other person is in the wrong, they still have their opinion and you have yours, and there's nothing you can do to change that." Today, another man that I respect and admire reminded me of essentially the same thing. Every coin has two sides.
I showed my side and what's done is done. Any loyal readers of this blog know that my words have always come from an honest place. If I wanted to write fiction, I would have found a better forum. This blog has been therapy during a long stretch of emotional recovery and it has always served its purpose for me, and - surprisingly - often for the people who read it. This latest storm, even if of a different sort, is just what the last one was. Temporary.
In the last few years of his life, my uncle was the smiling guy you see above. He lived with great regard for life, family, and the world around him, and he found someone who was truly right for him, who loved him fairly. He recovered. I think about him every day.
And now it's time for me to do the same. In deference to my uncle's memory, to my parents and to this other man I have come to respect, a man who is not my father but did his best to treat me like a son in the short time I knew him, I'm back on the high road and I intend to stay there. It's at times like these when you realize that the brightness of your future clearly outshines the darkness of your past.
Live Well, Laugh Often, Love Much and Carpe Diem - Seize The Day - are two phrases I will always associate with my late great uncle, Salvatore Celi. All words I still intend to live by.
It's a lot easier to grow without an albatross around your neck, and I'm removing mine. To those of you who have reached out, bent an ear, offered guidance, judged me fairly, and lifted me up during the darkest hours, I can't thank you enough and I love you for it. You all know who you are and you all the mean the world to me.